No matter how happily a woman may be married, it always pleases her to discover that there is a nice man who wishes that she were not.–H. L. Mencken
Recently someone told me I needed to act more appropriately than I do because I’m a married woman. Excuse me? But how do I act inappropriately? Because I said to this person that I thought one of our colleagues was hot? I’m sorry but just because I’m married it doesn’t mean I’m dead! I know my other married friends will agree. We may be married but we still feel, see, hear, want and love other people. We don’t act on it because we are MARRIED! We can still look at someone of the opposite or same sex and say, “My God I’d totally do that person”! Hell I even talk to Roger Darling about people I think are beautiful. He does the same with me. I don’t feel self-conscious about it when Roger says things to me like that. I know he loves and wants me.
I remember when we were first married, and I wouldn’t let the man out of my sight. I was so damn jealous. Now we go to a social event, like a party and we go our separate ways. We look at each other from across the room and just smile… We know we’ll be seeing each other later on and we’re okay with being away from each other. He’s a shameless flirt and so am I. Women love that man of mine for some strange reason. It’s so strange because he’s friends with more women than men and I’m friends with more men than women. We totally get that about each other. I think it just comes from being married for almost 23 years. We’re secure in our differences.
If you have to act differently in front of your spouse than you do in front of your friends, there’s a problem with your relationship. We should be free to be exactly who we are in front of our partner. There should be no pretenses. I didn’t die the day I got married. I’m still me. I’m still human. I still have needs, wants, and desires. What would be a problem is if I didn’t feel that way anymore……