FWBs and Booty Calls

My friend, the original Big Bad Voodoo Daddy, came to me last week to tell me that he had fucked up. I looked up at him, intrigued. I told him to go on. He said he and a friend had come to a mutual decision to be “Friends with Benefits”. He was shocked that she then started to have feelings for him! I wanted to reach out and slap him. He’s all 6 foot 4, tattooed and gorgeous. But he can be a dumb ass.  I looked at him and called him a dumb fuck. I asked if she was the one that suggested they become FWBs, and he sheepishly said, yes. I told him that even though I’ve been married for 23 years I knew the outcome of his story. If the girl suggests being FWBs, she’s already on her way to “Love”ville. I told Big Daddy that if she calls you at midnight and she’s drunk, then that’s a booty call. Those are okay. But “Friends with Benefits” seldom work out. Someone ALWAYS gets hurt.

In my experience, it has usually been me that got hurt. I always used sex as validation. I figured if he had sex with me, it must mean he cares about me. Right? No he didn’t. To him I was just a piece of ass, till the next real relationship came along. And the boys that hid me away from others? That was even more fucked up. It doesn’t mean that I didn’t hurt a boy or two back in the day. I know I did. Sometimes all we are to each other is sex and body parts. We’re meeting a need or it could even be as simple as curiosity. But remember curiosity killed the cat, or in this case Big Bad Voodoo Daddy’s  friendship. To this day there are some people that I’ve regretted sleeping with. Most I do not. We gave each other what we needed. We took what we needed too. Even if it was a booty call or FWB, there was some comfort in it.

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19 thoughts on “FWBs and Booty Calls

  1. Correct! Friends and sex don’t mix. I’ve only recently found this out, with my best friend. She was my first love, but it was only temporary bliss for her. If you get a chance to check my blog. Peace and love x

    • I’m sorry my love. It can even happen to men. I know, I’ve broken a few hearts in my day. I do hope you find what you’re searching for. That she’s the girl of your dreams. I really do. And I’ll be sure to ready you my sweet.

      • Thank you for your kind words. I wasn’t experienced with love, I thought that when two people made such an overwhelming connection, fate would maintain our happiness, but it’s never that easy, and maybe it’s for the best this time.

      • Honey it’s work. Every relationship is work. We either want to put in the time or we don’t. Most of us want to. Some of us give up. And there are other times when love is just dead. Make sure you’re in the right relationship. Make sure it’s worth it.

      • In hindsight, it CLEARLY wasn’t worth it with Stacey, but i get some comfort from knowing i did what i could for her. That’s advice I shall bear in mind for next time, thank you

  2. I wish I could talk to this friend of yours. I’d tell him,man to man, “there’s no such thing as free p*ssy!” Of course, I have similar advice for girls, simply substituting one p word for another. I guess we need to periodically do refreshers on the social contract. Under the general headings of relationships, there’s the genital access clause. You sign that, you forfeit your friendship status!

    • Honey first of all you can say the word pussy on my page. I say fuck and cunt all the time. Second this guy is a dork that thought with his dick. He’s old enough to know better. I thought we all knew there was no such thing as free sex. There isn’t. The sad thing is he lost a friend. But she lost sOme of her self respect. I really would like to knOck both of them in their heads.

    • Your words are so kind. Thanks so much. I LOVE being unique. It’s one of the things that makes me so. I embrace it. WTF it’s who I am. Giggle. I’m glad you liked the post. And please keep reading.

  3. I am honestly looking for advice from men to help me with starting a FWB or booty call relationship with one of my males friends. So in the interest of better communication for more beneficial relationships, I offer the following clarification between Friends With Benefits (FWB) and Booty Calls.
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    Thanks for sharing…

    • Honey I don’t know if I offered any solutions. Just had to put my two cents out there. I don’t understand how we can be so stupid about sex. We gotta think with our hearts and our body parts. That’s the only way it will work. Thanks for reading my dear.

  4. Thrilled to have you as a follower to my blog. I am a blonde bombshell myself! I appreciate that you have edge, while maintaining a practicality that is difficult for most people to convey. Your blog is very easy to relate to, for those of us who already see the world through similar eyes; however, very enlightening to those who don’t. Excellent post. Keep it up!

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    • Thank you for following me. And for all the kind comments. We blonde bombshells need to stick together. For how else will we rule the world? Keep reading my sweet. And I’ll be sure to read you. Wink!

    • Honey it’s okay to have fun. But don’t let anyone take advantage of you. Be good to yourself and others will be good to you. Thanks for reading and please keep on. Take care my sweet.

  5. I have to chuckle at this, because I am one of the rare exceptions to this ‘rule’…just celebrated my 2nd wedding anniversary to my FWB! Certainly not the most romantic, old-fashioned way to find a spouse, lol….but somewhere along the line we realized that our hearts were just as fond of each other as our bodies were…

    • Oh Tracy I love that it worked out. He is your heart, isn’t he? I can’t wait to meet him. Soon. 11 more days and this wild girl is on the road to meet you and him and the doodahs and West Virginia. Sigh.

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